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Quote of the Day - The first condition of immortality is death. - Stanislaw J. Lec
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Difficult Decisions

I've faced this decision several times now, and am not looking forward to facing it again, but I know I will.

You may not have yet, but as time ticks on, the possibilities increase.

Death.

Never an easy subject. Especially when it involves loved ones. In fact, we have a whole series of euphemisms built around the experience to shield us from its pain.

Having to decide - play God - whether someone lives or dies is too much power. There've been movies about the consequences. Living wills can go a long way to solve the problems, but like the New York Times story (first link) notes, they can't anticipate all situations.

Where does that leave us?

After reading the NYT story, I'm left with this conclusion: talk to your family members, young and old, and find out what they want. Go over a variety of scenarios. Resolve family differences.

That's the one thought that resonates for me. My Dad and I didn't get along all that well late in his life, but we were able to finally reach resolution over most everything and talk to each other periodically. My brother never got to that point. When our Dad died, my brother was left with a lot of things he had wanted to get resolved, but didn't.

He wishes he had.

I can't imagine what it would have been like had we needed to reach the life and death decisions in the NYT story. It would have been hell.

So where does this quandary leave us?

Give in. Talk to your family members. Mend wounds now.

You won't regret it.

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