Quote of the Day - The chain of wedlock is so heavy that it takes two to carry it - sometimes three.
As an adoptive parent, if you elect to give up your child in New York, you still have to pay child support, even though an unwed mother who elects to do the same thing is excused from paying similar support for her biological child. While it doesn't seem right, that's the law.
The court will tell you that it is just upholding the law, that it didn't enact these laws, and complaints should be directed to the legislature.
Here's the situation: three years ago, a divorced woman adopted a special needs child, but found she couldn't cope with the child's daily requirements. She then asked the court to grant a judicial surrender of the child, which it granted. The NY Department of Social Services, however, ruled based on a New York statute that apparently requires an adoptive parent to pay support if able, and the court upheld that ruling. On the other hand, had she been a biological parent, she wouldn't have been required to pay support under New York law.
Disparate treatment for desperate circumstances? MIPTC votes to require payment from both parents, and indeed all parents.
I'd call that the "you gotta pay to play" rule.